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成為好的聆聽者--戴元涔傳道

11/22/2015

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​大多數人都「說」太多,而「聽」太少。雅各書1:19:「你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒。」聆聽是一種技巧。如果你想要改善家庭關係、工作關係,或希望在教會團契的服事有好的果效,就要擴展這個技巧,藉著練習、專心及下決心,成為一個好的聆聽者。馬鞍山教會的華克理牧師提出聆聽的四個要訣:
 
一、耐心聽完
在你還沒全部聽完、全盤瞭解前,先別妄下斷語。通常人說一些我們並不以為然的話時,我們會插嘴,發表意見或反駁。你必須耐心先把對方要說的事整個聽完。箴言18:13:「未曾聽完先回答的,便是他的愚昧和羞辱。」有時候人來找我們說話,可能只是想吐吐苦水。所以,我們最好先花點時間瞭解他們到底要講什麼。若我們沒聽完就回答,那我們就是把回答建立在錯誤的假設上。在聆聽的過程中,若對方無法完整或適當地表達,這時我們有責任幫對方「解碼」,問:「你是說…,我聽到的是…。」
 
二、保持冷靜
不要有防衛的心態。在教會服事(特別是做領袖的)難免被批評,要不被批評的唯一方法就是:什麼都不做、什麼都不說、什麼都不當。一旦你作了任何事,就可能會有人來批評。箴言19:11:「人有見識,就不輕易發怒;寬恕人的過失,便是自己的榮耀。」有耐心,就有見識。面對意見不同或批評時,你必須特別有耐心,保持冷靜。
 
 三、主動傾聽
透過問創意性的問題,可以幫助自己成為好的聆聽者。箴言20:5:「人心懷藏謀略,好像深水;惟明哲人,纔能汲引出來。」人的心思意念常深藏不露,但善解人意的人可以藉著問好問題,把人真正的心意牽引出來。但是該怎麼做呢?問明確的問題!例如:是誰?何事?何時?如何?這些問題可以幫助你釐清對方的意思,並讓他們知道你很專注的在聽。
 
四、重述重點
好的聆聽者必須能把對方所說的重點重述,然後再表達自己的想法。但在你說出你的看法以前,你必須先讓對方覺得你完全瞭解他的意思,方法就是適度的重述他之前所說的。這種傾聽技巧在家庭,公司,開會或小組聚會中,相當有用。
 
禱告
求主使我成為一個好的聆聽者。當人說話時,不先判斷和批評,謹記箴言的提醒:「未曾聽完先回答的,便是他的愚昧和羞辱。」被批評時,能保持冷靜,記得聖經的教導:「人有見識,就不輕易發怒;寬恕人的過失,便是自己的榮耀。」求主使我願意主動聆聽,問好問題,把人真正的心意牽引出來。能把對方所說的重點重述,然後再表達自己的想法。
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