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如何尋找佳偶--戴元涔傳道

6/14/2015

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如何尋找終身伴侶,不僅是許多單身弟兄姐妹所關心的,也是為人父母對於未婚子女選擇對象特別關心的。最近聽到Gary Thomas分享『如何尋找佳偶』*,特別整理他的講義和上課筆記,希望本文不僅幫助單身弟兄姐妹,也讓為人父母者引導我們的下一代,尋找合神心意的終身伴侶,建立美滿的基督化家庭。Gary Thomas提到擇偶的六個要點: 

1.  能處理衝突的人(Someone who can handle conflict)
檢視對方如何處理兩人的衝突。如果他/她採取冷戰,甚至暴力,則要提高警覺。婚前如此,婚後更不得了。
2.  可以成為很棒的父母(Someone who will be a spectacular parent)
孩子是神給的祝福,教養兒女是為人父母者必須有的能力。另外,講員鼓勵年輕人早點結婚,一方面減少性誘惑,一方面可以早生貴子,也減少母親生產的風險。
3.  禱告的人(Someone who prays)
是否禱告,可以檢視對方的屬靈生命以及與神的關係。一個人如果在交往/生活中未曾談到神,他/她很可能是一個不與神交談的人。
4.  謙卑的人(Someone is humble)
謙卑是極其重要的生命品格。謙卑的人承認他/她剛剛所犯的過錯,並且當天就認罪。
5.  願意給予的人(Someone who is a giver, not a taker)
如何知道對方是自私、只想獲取的人?(1)只想獲取的人面對事情的反應總是為自己;(2)只想獲取的人被要求時也會給予,但最終總希望得到償還;(3)看他/她如何對待別人。
6.  聖靈充滿的人(The Holy Spirit is active in his/her life)

選擇一個滿有聖靈和智慧、敬畏神的人。檢視他/她的生命是否有聖靈的果子:仁愛、喜樂、和平、忍耐、恩慈、良善、信實、溫柔、節制?

Gary Thomas從屬靈生命的角度來探討如何尋找佳偶。他的觀點也提醒我們,如果一個單身的人希望找到合神心意的佳偶,自己先要成為合神心意的人。如果我們希望自己的孩子找到合神心意的佳偶,我們不僅為他們禱告,自己也要用身教去影響他們。

 

*備註:本文是上週參加羅省基督教會聯會所舉辦的牧者退修會中講員談The Sacred Search的講義和筆記整理,退修會的講員是Gary Thomas,他最出名的著作是Sacred Marriage(中譯本《婚姻靈修學》),其他有中譯版的著作是Sacred Parenting(《父母靈修學》)。Gary Thomas擅長從靈命的角度和與神的關係探討家庭關係,他在牧者退修會中的講題有Sacred Marriage, Spiritual Warfare, Sacred Parenting, Worshipping Your Way to a Better Marriage, All that Really Matters, Sexual Saints, 以及The Sacred Search。

 

 

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